Women and Orgasms: What’s That All About?…… When it comes to orgasms every woman is different.
I can’t stress this enough. Some women have very intense orgasms while other women can’t have one at all. If you and your partner keep the lines of communication open, and you do everything you can to please her—you should feel a sense of accomplishment.
There are two types of orgasms a woman can have.
The most common way a woman can achieve orgasm is through clitoral stimulation. Not only is this most common, but it’s probably more intense and easier to achieve than an inner orgasm. Simply pumping away at your woman won’t guarantee that she’ll reach the little death. You probably have to do a little more work than that. A friend told me once; she and her boyfriend started a routine of strict penetration with no foreplay or oral sex. This did not make her happy, so she coined the phrase “The oven needs pre-heating” and I immediately applauded her honesty and classy euphemism.
You see, no matter what– you should always pay attention to her clitoris.
Women need to warm up before you can have any penetration, and they’re more likely to reach orgasm externally than internally. Studies have even shown that the more a woman orgasms from clitoral stimulation the more likely she’ll orgasm through penetration. If her clit is erect, the organ actually wraps around the inside of the vagina and increases the likelihood of a g-spot induced orgasm. This makes sex a much more enjoyable experience! So put the work in and go downtown.
Women can achieve orgasm internally.
It may not be as intense as a clitoral orgasm, but it still feels pretty good. Make sure you’re communicating with your partner when trying to achieve this type of orgasm. The g-spot is a tricky thing to find, and the more she directs you the more likely you’ll find it. Another thing to keep in mind is that women are more likely to achieve orgasm when they are mentally stimulated. This is one of the sexual things women want. That means whispering to her, make eye contact and switching it up a little. If you’re just doing your thing in complete silence and not throwing her into different positions she probably won’t have an orgasm. In fact, she’ll fake it so you finish faster.
Women can also achieve multiple orgasms.
As I said, every woman is different—so at the beginning of your sexual adventures focus on making her reach orgasm at least once. Think of it as a gold star for a job well done. If she knows her own body she’ll tell you what you need to do in order to make her reach orgasm again. If she wants to have multiple orgasms she has to be vocal about it, and you need to be willing to do the work. Your girlfriend might only be able to reach orgasm once, and that’s okay. Her body just isn’t conditioned to have more than one orgasm. She might also be a little nervous.
If you can’t get your woman to achieve orgasm don’t fret.
Encourage her to open up a dialog, and do everything to make her comfortable and please her. After a few “lessons” from your girl, I’m sure she’ll be arriving at orgasm city in no time. The female orgasm isn’t a myth. It’s just a little shy sometimes.