The One I Love Belongs to Someone Else…….It’s the classic love story. You find someone who is perfect for you, but then you find out that person is someone else’s perfect. You want so desperately for that person to be your own, but there just isn’t anything you can do to make that happen. So where do you go from this point?
How to Cope with an Un-Returned Love
When people say that time heals all wounds it is the truth. It may not be today, or tomorrow, but with time…sometimes, a lot of time, you will feel better. Knowing what to do in this time will help you get through it easier and quicker.
- Accept Your Feelings and Thoughts But Don’t Act on Them
The first thing to do is understand that what you are feeling is normal, and what you are thinking is a direct result of your emotions. As long as you don’t act on your thoughts, you are not doing anything morally wrong. By not doing anything morally wrong, such as dating someone who is with someone else, you protect yourself from feeling more pain in the future.
- Cut Down on the Time You Spend With the Person
If you see the person you are in love with regularly, try to decrease the amount of time you have to be around her. The less time you spend, the less likely your emotions will build even more for the person.
When you spend less time, you’ll have more control over your emotions because you won’t have new ones constantly coming into your mind compounding the ones you already have about the person. You can take the thoughts and feelings you already have, accept them, and then release them.
Always remember, it’s not what you think or feel, it’s what you do with them that is important in healing your broken heart.
Other Ways to Help Ease the Pain
Keeping yourself busy doing things that don’t involve the person will keep your mind off her. You will start to live a new life without her part of it, and that will make it easier to stop ruminating about the situation.
Avoiding love songs, books about hopeless love and everything else that makes you think about how you feel is also a good idea. You don’t have to avoid them forever, just until you don’t feel so out of control in your love for her.
Keep a journal of how you feel and what you think about because you shouldn’t always push them out of your mind. You want to process everything so you can learn from it. That way, the next time you meet someone who ends up being with someone else you’ll stop yourself from getting too involved with her.
Lean on friends for support. Your friends have probably been where you are so they can give you some advice on how to get over your feelings.
What to Avoid When You Hopelessly Love Someone Else
One of the ways some people cope is by dating someone else. While this may distract you, it’s not wise to do it. You could end up frustrated because you’ll see how much this person isn’t like the one you love. You may cause a lot of pain, because she may fall in love with you. That’s not fair. You know how the pain feels, and inflicting it on someone else won’t make you feel better.
Now that you know what to do when you love someone who belongs to someone else, start taking care of yourself. You deserve to be happy with someone who only has eyes for you. Repair your heart so you can open it up to someone who has an open heart for you.