Surviving Long Distance Relationships

Arriving by train

Long distance relationships are not an easy task.  It takes a lot of communication and work.  If you really love your woman, the effort will be worth it.  After all, distance makes the heart grow fonder and if you have the right tools to succeed your relationship will be that much stronger.

When I talk about long distance relationships I only encourage couples to stay together that are already deeply invested in one another.  If you’ve only been dating someone for a few months and one of the partners has to move away permanently—you should seriously reconsider continuing the relationship.  The usual insecurities and problems that arise in a relationship are magnified when distance comes into play.  The term geographically undesirable should be a part of your vocabulary.  In the first few months of a relationship it’s very important to see each other on a frequent basis. That way, you build up a familiarity and move forward as a couple.  If you have distance keeping the two of you apart, not only will you not see one another on a constant basis—but the stress of distance is too much to handle for a brand spanking new relationship.  You should focus that new relationship energy on someone that lives closer to you.

  If your partner has to move a great distance and the two of you want to stay together there are plenty of things you can do to keep the relationship alive.  Now that the two of you are apart you’ll have to be ready to put a great amount of effort in scheduling you communication together.  Thanks to technology, the days of writing long love letters and sending them via pigeon are over.  You can send your partner a text message virtually any time of the day, and they will instantly get it.  The world is much smaller than it used to be.  Calling your partner a few times a week is another great way to stay connected.  Skype is another great way to stay in touch, because the video adds another element of intimacy that the two of you need.  It’s always nice to be able to see the person you’re talking to and it feels more intimate than just a phone call.  The both of you should schedule your communication time.  Make Skype dates once or twice a week.  If you actually schedule these interactions you can make them feel like they’re actual dates.   Women want you to make this effort.

  I said before that the days of long love letters were over, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t sit down and write one or two.  Love letters are an extremely intimate way to make your woman feel loved.  The distance is very hard on your relationship, and if you sit down and write an intimate heartfelt letter the distance will feel much shorter.  In fact, your partner will probably save those letters and they can become a part of your romantic history.  Awww!  How cute!