Making Your Woman Feel Special: When She’s Feeling Depressed……. Everyone goes through the blues every once in awhile. If you’re going to be in a long-term relationship with a woman, chances are you’ll be exposed to her depression at some point. Likewise, she may experience yours. This isn’t a bad thing. It only shows how intimate the two of you are and how comfortable she feels around you. After all, it’s hard to admit when you’re depressed—especially to your partner.
The first thing you should do is make sure you’re not the one causing the depression. Open up a dialog with her and ask her what’s wrong. Find out if she’s upset about something you’ve done or said. If she is upset, hear her out. Try to understand where she’s coming from, and try to solve the problem. Be careful not to get too defensive. If you become overly defensive her depression might turn into anger. Just try to work on listening to how she feels and then work to make her feel better. If you do talk to her and she’s irrationally blaming you for her depression maybe she’s not telling you something. If she’s extremely irrational you should probably encourage her to talk to someone.
In either case, before I continue with my cute/joke advice, if your girlfriend has been living with depression for a few weeks now– you should probably take notice. Depression is a serious mental illness and shouldn’t be taken lightly. If your girl gets moody for a few days once a month, that’s perfectly normal. Just be aware of unhealthy patterns. Your girlfriend could even call 1-800-273-TALK if she simply needs to talk to someone. Just let her know that you are there for her in her time of need.
If your girl is just feeling a little down at the moment there are so many ways you can cheer her up. Each woman wants something different. When dealing with depression, some people prefer to get their mind off things by going out and doing something. Other people need to talk about their feelings. Find out what works for her. Does she want to go out and see a movie? Does she want to talk about what’s bothering her? Listen to what she needs in order to feel better, and then be person that provides it. If she needs space, encourage her to do something nice for herself. Tell her to grab sushi with her friends. Encourage her to get out and be active. The more she’s active the better her mood will improve.
If your girlfriend’s depression is the result of a loss, be careful what you say around her. Whether it’s a family member, a job, or a pet you shouldn’t joke around about it. When someone loses something close to them the initial shock can push them into a depression. This is usually a more sensitive type of depressed state, so you really need to be sensitive to the situation. If she’s lost a family member encourage her to share some awesome memories with you. If it’s a job, remind her how smart she is and how easily she’ll land on her feet.
Everyone gets sad every once in awhile. If you’re going to be in a long-term relationship, you’re going to see that side of your woman. Don’t come from a place of judgment, but a place of concern and understanding. If you can cheer her up then go for it. Make sure you’re still looking out for yourself, though. Don’t feel like you have to be the person to cure her depression. You shouldn’t hold that responsibility over your head