07 Jun Are You Bored?
Do you often find yourself bored, kinda lonely, and talking to your dog while holding the end of her conversation?
Alright, at the risk of sounding like an infomercial, let me start over…
No matter how old you are, it’s important to have a good group of friends. When I say group I’m not talking about a huge clique of girls you see in teen movies strutting down the school hallway in a large, “V” formation. I actually mean a core group of friends you can rely on.
If you’re in your late 20’s like me, you know that as we get older, it can be hard to keep friends and even harder to make new friends. That’s definitely the case for me, as most of my friends live a few states away. I attended college at the University of Rhode Island and all the girls I’ve made friends with during my time there either moved to or still live in New England. I miss them a lot along with the kick ass times we used to have during our college days.
Although we’re not in college anymore (sigh) it would still be nice to hang out as often as we used to. But we’re all grown up now, in relationships, and have “big girl” jobs that keep us busy. Our jobs and partners are what we’re changing our lives for and I’ve been lacking in the “girl-time” department more than usual.
I do have a few friends who live nearby, but we don’t hang out as often as we should. So I took it upon myself to do something about it. A few months ago, I saw an ad on Instagram for the app BumbleBFF. I’ve heard of the app Bumble before, it’s a dating app where girls have to make the first move on the guy. But BumbleBFF is basically a friend finding app for girls. I was pretty weary of creating an account (and to be honest, a little embarrassed), but then I thought of myself sitting on my couch (which nowpossesses a permanent indent from my ass) every night and was like, what the hell, I’m bored. I’m doing it.
However, I did have some questions…Would my current friends be insulted? What would my boyfriend think? Would I get “catfished”? After shrugging and setting aside those reservations, I created an account.
I thought it was cool because I’ve never used an actual dating app before (Tinder, Plenty of Fish, Farmers Only, etc.) because I’ve always been in a relationship while those apps burst onto the social networking scene. And I never even knew what the term “swiping left” really meant. I’ve seen it in memes and magazine articles, but it all went over my head.
I created bio that I re-wrote over and over so potential girl friends wouldn’t think I seemed obnoxious or corny. The pictures I uploaded contain me, one of my boyfriend and I, and of course, me and my 2 beloved bunnies. Once I decided the profile looked good enough, I went on my merry little way! And I have to say, I hadsome fun scrolling through different girls’ profiles and finding things in common with them. You can even send gifs as well as images (creepy feature? Still don’t know) in the messaging feature. Most of the time, I opted for the, “Heey, what’s up?!” route when initiating a conversation.
After having the app for a few weeks, I connected with some girls I’ve swiped right and matched with (I know what that means now!!) and exchanged pleasantries. Some convos were duds and some were productive. So far I have met 3 real cool girls via BumbleBFF and I can see myself becoming good friends with them! We’ve only hung out a small number of times but I’m excited to see where it goes.
I will admit, at first I felt like a loser but then I realized that tons of girls used this app who are in the same boat as I am but I don’t regret it. It’s better than talking to my rabbits and constantly uploading pics to their Instagram account (you read that right) on a nightly basis.Now I can go out with my boyfriend some nights and meet up with my Bumble girls on other nights.
So if you find yourself in the same boat as me, consider making some moves and growing a pair of wings! I’m glad I did.