Material Things Women Want
Nothing has changed the way many women—and men, for that matter—acquire the material things that women want the way QVC has. They made an extremely prosperous business by creating hosts who seemed to come right into your living room, chat with you about things that you find interesting, and then sell you those things. To hear the stories, a lot of people almost became addicted to the QVC shopping experience because they found the entire process so comforting and fulfilling. Until the credit card bill came of course.
But that’s an anomaly. We all want something and most of us have limits on what we can spend and afford. (Sometimes those two numbers are different, and that might not be a good thing.) We all love to go shopping, and let’s face it—some of love to go shopping simply because we love to go shopping. When we go out we don’t really need anything but we go anyway. Simply because it’s fun.
What’s interesting is what you look for when you go on those indulgent excursions. We all have varied tastes and interests, likes and dislikes. That’s what the material things women want is all about.
Share your favorite shopping haunts—online or real-world—and tell us what you like about it. You might have a secret little boutique jewelry store in New York City like Lori McLean. Or maybe it’s a cool little online shop selling awesome handmade stuff on Etsy. Share your secret finds and tell us why you like them. (By the way, your favorite merchants will love you for doing this.)
Here’s another thing—the material things that you can’t live without. Maybe it’s your cell phone (hopefully it isn’t). Technology products like music players, tablet computers, digital cameras, even laptops all have a special place in a lot of our hearts. But maybe it’s an amazing piece of jewelry, or clothing or your car—whatever.
That’s why this is so much fun. There are so many material things women want to choose from. There are so many places to shop. There are so many things to share with us. That’s what this section is for.
Emotional Things Women Want
Women are generally much more in touch with our emotions than our male counterparts are. That’s a fact of life—and probably biology as well. But that doesn’t mean we’re always happy.
And happiness is a big part of being healthy. When you’re sad or depressed, it’s hard to think about—and do—positive healthy things. So the Emotional Things Women Want is about just that—the emotional things that are missing from our lives. The things that we need in order to be happy.
But these articles aren’t all about missing pieces. Let’s face it, nobody is ever going to be happy all day every day. There are always going to be ups and downs—life has a way of doing that to you. So in order to survive, it’s necessary to cope with things. Sometimes it’s necessary to fill in the emotional gaps so that you can go on and still enjoy the day. Kind of like an emotional “work around.”
Many women have developed sound and workable strategies to deal the emotional deficiencies that come up from time to time. It’s important to share your personal strategies that you use to deal with the occasional emotional challenge because sometimes that’s all it takes to overcome sadness or depression. Sometimes it’s simply a matter of finding out what works for other women, and then applying it to our own lives.
When all else fails though, sometimes it’s great just to sound off. By getting what’s bothering you out in the open—even if it’s done anonymously—you can actually begin the process of solving the problem and filling the emotional need.
What’s really special is that sometimes getting the problem—or the need—out of your head and into the world is all it takes for a solution to present itself. It’s a matter of perspective. Of course, airing the things you want emotionally in public can also open up the floodgates of good advice as well.
Don’t hold back here. If there is something emotional that you want, or just want to talk about, this is the place to do it.
Relationship Things Women Want
The one thing we know for sure is that relationships have changed over the years and they continue to change to this day. We also know that relationships are a lot of work.
If you’ve been in a committed relationship for any period of time, you know this better than anyone. Many of us in our twenties and thirties are deciding to get married later in life—if we even get married at all. Many of us in our forties, fifties and sixties, got married at a much earlier age. And a good number of us who did that got married again along the way.
We also know that for a marriage or committed relationship to work we have to work at the relationship. People change over time and if we’re with a partner, we have to change in synch with them. Otherwise we grow apart and the results of that—at least from a relationship standpoint—are usually disastrous.
Another relationship challenge that many women face is with our kids. When they’re young we share a unique bond with them. As they grow older, this bond sometimes changes and so does the mother-child relationship. It’s not all bad, necessarily, but sometimes it’s not all good, either.
Of course many contemporary women are choosing not have babies at all. And despite what men like Rick Santorum might think about that, it’s perfectly okay to make that decision. Some of us prefer adoption and some of us prefer no kids at all. In the end, we get to choose the relationships that we are involved in.
The key to what we want out of our relationships is really therefore up to us. We all have our own specific, particular and personal needs. That’s what this section is all about.
Sometimes there are things that you just feel you can’t share with your spouse, your partner, significant other or your kids. It also might be something that has come up between you and one of your friends. Whatever things your relationship needs this is a great place to get it out there and clear the air. Even if you’re not looking for advice you’ll still feel better for being able to talk about those needs.
Sexual Things Women Want
Sex—it’s something just about all of us are interested in, but very few of us talk about. And sometimes, when it comes to the sexual things women want, it helps to talk about them.
The problem is who to talk to. Sometimes it’s awkward talking to your significant other about sex, mainly because the chances are pretty high that, in one form or another, they are part of the problem.
Although every woman has her own particular sexual needs, wants, desires and yes—fantasies—the one thing that we all have in common is that we think about sex a lot differently than men do. Part of that is biological and part of that is sociological, but there can be no denying that the topic of sex is viewed and thought about differently between the sexes.
So girls, here’s your chance to get it off of your proverbial chest. You don’t have to be self-conscious about what you say and you don’t have to be embarrassed by it. Reveal your inner you and give it a voice so it can be heard.
Of course, your personal sex life might just rock. That’s great news and certainly good for you. So please don’t keep us in suspense—let us know the secrets to your sexual success. Let us know how you’re doing it, no pun intended.
There’s one other wrinkle here that might make this all the more interesting. Although this site is written for women by women, it’s not restricted to women only. Men can read it to, and many of them will, to find out exactly what things women want.
Initially that might make some of you slightly uncomfortable until you think about it for a minute. Since many of the sexual things that women want are almost fully dependent on the males of our species, it makes perfect sense for them to see what we have to say about sex. Certainly some of the things you say her will surprise some men and even shock them. Great—that’s the best possible way to make everybody’s sex life better.
Don’t hold back here. The sexual things women want are important to living a healthy and happy life. Tell the world what you think.
Physical Things Women Want
Congress recently held hearings about women’s health issues. A respected panel of “experts” was convened to provide our diligent legislators with the information they need to make the laws that concern us. And by us, we’re not talking about the population in general. We are speaking about women, specifically.
Regardless about how you feel, as a women, about congress dictating what we can—and can’t—do with our bodies, you might at least be tempted to believe that they sincerely have our best interests at heart and that all of this concern for women’s health isn’t just a charade of political theater.
Yes, you might want to believe this, until you find out that the panel of women’s health experts didn’t include any women. That’s right—not a single woman was asked to be on the panel to discuss our personal health issues. It’s little consolation to note that a number of women who hold positions of power in Congress boycotted the hearing.
The point is that when it comes to our bodies and our health, it should be our choice. Most of us understand the need to serve the greater good—as long as it doesn’t come at the expense of our own physical health and well being.
That’s what this section is about—the physical things that women want, specifically relating to their health and fitness.
We have lots of things to talk about when it comes to our health, our bodies and our appearance. We are all very familiar with the challenge of growing older, which of course some of us handle differently than others. Sometimes it helps to discuss those challenges and to understand the strategies that different women use to address them.
But there are other, more important issues than aging that women need to be informed about. Health and wellness are probably at the top of the list, for obvious reasons. The pressures of kids, work, home and relationships can take a toll on a woman’s body. You need to eat right, exercise properly, and get enough sleep in order to be a healthier, happier you. Unfortunately, most of us just don’t have the time, patience or knowledge to do all of that right, so we want this section to be a place to come for solid information on how to stay healthy.
When it comes to our bodies, the physical things that women want are the most important things of all.
Professional Things Women Want
When it comes to the professional things that women want, one word probably sums it up—everything. Now, that doesn’t mean that every woman needs to work outside of the home pursuing a professional career. But we want to be able to do that if we so desire, and in the process enjoy all of the benefits and opportunities that our male counterparts enjoy. It’s only fair. Everything needs to be equal—that’s what we really want.
You don’t have to be an historian to know that if things aren’t completely equal for professional women today, it was even worse years ago. In fact, we haven’t even had the constitutional right to vote for a hundred years—the Nineteenth Amendment to the Constitution, which give the right to vote to anyone regardless of sex (but not of any race mind you) was passed in 1920. That is a sobering fact.
So at the start of the 20th Century, women were not only discriminated against professionally, but politically as well. Getting our voice in Washington was a start, but certainly didn’t completely resolve the inequality we suffered, that still exists in many forms even today.
Let’s start with Corporate America. We’ve all heard of the glass ceiling that limits the advancement of women in the workplace. We all know it exists, even though everybody agrees that it shouldn’t. The number of women CEOs, while increasing, is still predominantly a men’s club. Pay scales for women and men for the same basic roles are still out of whack—in favor of men.
Even if the inequality between women and men persists in Corporate America, women aren’t content to sit idly by. The number of women entrepreneurs starting their own businesses is on the rise, and some experts predict that over the next decade or so new businesses started by women will surpass those started by men.
On top of that, many stay-at-home moms—as well a growing number of disillusioned corporate expatriates—are launching home-based businesses. There are so many opportunities to make money from home, that it’s hard to overlook this professional avenue, even if it’s only for a second—or third—income. Whether you’re a photographer, cook, writer, crafter, designer, or anything else you can imagine, more and more women are making a good living doing those things from home.
The professional things that women want are varied and diversified. Whether you work for a company, for a company you started, from home, or are just thinking about going back to work, you need a strategy for professional fulfillment. That’s what this section is all about.